“If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people.”
— Virginia Woolf
Well here the fuck we are!
Once hibernated, now fully migrated from WordPress to my very own site. Thank you so much for joining me here! Now that everything is set up, I fully intend to grow this little blog into a space that informs, entertains, and encourages.
This is a place for the misfits, the curious, the kinky, and anyone with an open mind.
What This Blog Is All About
Here, you will read about the highlights, lessons, and raw moments of my authentic life. My writing centers around my marriage and Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), which, for anyone new here, just means a relationship style where partners agree to have romantic or sexual relationships with other people.
We absolutely do not judge here. I welcome your questions and genuinely want to hear your opinions.
If you are a returning reader, thank you for sticking with me. The long break in my writing was brought on by a lot of things honestly, things I should have just written about at the time. I fully intend to do that now.
The Real Side of the Lifestyle
This lifestyle is a difficult path. It is not all parties and joy every second. Many of us deal with:
- Deep self-doubt
- Body image issues
- Abandonment triggers
- Jealousy and past traumas
While a lack of technical knowledge held me back from blogging for a bit, trying to write while so many things were going wrong in my personal life proved to be the real challenge. It has been a couple of years of trying to find my way again. Letting go of attachments can be a painful process, and trusting my instincts is something I’ve had to learn the hard way.
Breaking the Silence
The original intent of this blog was to share my experiences and provide a space where people could look for inspiration in their own relationships. But lately, I felt fake. What right did I have to speak on a topic that was, at times, causing so much heartbreak and sadness in my own life?
Then it hit me: The whole point is the truth.
Honesty is the ultimate through-line in my world. If you can’t be honest with me, you can’t be in my life. People want honesty. We want to be able to depend on someone when they give their word. People also want the real story, not the sugarcoated bullshit.
The lifestyle is not always sex and parties; you can truly make it whatever you want it to be. But the deeper you go, the more you risk.
There was a lot I felt I could not write about before. I worried people might cut me off due to something they read. I have also felt forced to keep silent about the mental and physical abuse I’ve dealt with. I have been quiet for far too long.
What’s Coming Next (Yes, There Will Be Parties!)
This blog will cover far more than just the fun side of things, but don’t worry! There are still plenty of parties, meet-and-greets, and beautiful people to talk about. That will absolutely continue.
- This Weekend: We are hitting a Toga meet-and-greet! I am sure there will be some wild tales to come from that evening.
- Coming Soon: I am launching a special recurring series called “Meeting Nina.” It details a rollercoaster of a relationship that may have completely destroyed what was left of my CNS (Central Nervous System) but hey, we are alive!
Thank you so much for reading and going on this journey with me.
💬 Let’s Connect!
I want this blog to be a two-way street. Drop a comment below and let me know: If you’re in the lifestyle, what is the biggest “non-sugarcoated” lesson you’ve had to learn the hard way? If you’re just curious, what’s something you’ve always wanted to ask? Let’s talk!
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