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  • Running Out of Fucks

    “You can’t be an important and life-changing presence for some people without also being a joke and an embarrassment to others.”-The Subtle Art of not Giving a F*uck

    This quote speaks volumes to me. It is a reminder that trying to please everyone is a loss cause. It will never happen. There will always be those who disapprove of your life choices, but in the end it is your life. Trust me, you are an inspiration to someone just the way you are! You are also the villain in someone’s story!

    One thing weighing heavy on my mind me these days, is the urge to be completely free of all social constructs . To live my life the way I see fit. How amazing would that be? Living on my own terms. Only allow positivity in my life and being who I am no matter what!

    We hold ourselves back from reaching our potential when we aren’t our true selves.

    In the movie, “Private Parts”, Howard Stern realizes in order to truly be great, he had to just be himself. He had to break through the negativity . There were so many that despised what he did but he kept doing it his way. In the movie he quits his mediocre job as a disk jockey at a country music station with nothing lined up, but he knew he was destine for something more.

    Private Parts (1997) – Plot Summary – IMDb

    I recall the scene where he has this epiphany. He is discussing his reasons for leaving a mediocre job and realizes what he must do going forward.

    Howard says, “It’s so apparent to me now what I should be doing. I should be talking about my personal life. I’ve got to get intimate. And every time I feel like I shouldn’t say something, maybe I should just blurt it out, you know? I just got to let things fly. I got to go all the way!”

    In that moment, Howard realizes that the only way he was going to achieve success and contentment is to “go all the way”. He couldn’t fake it.

    If you know anything about Stern, you know how this story ends. Whether you love him or hate him, his show was an extreme success and paved the way for so many who came after. He had no fucks to give.

    I absolutely loved the book, The Art of Not Giving a F*ck! Essentially, its mantra is not to give a fuck about anything that is not worth giving a fuck about. You only have so many fucks to give, after all and you don’t want to just waste fucks on anything and everything. People are going to talk! Let them. If you have not read the book, check it out. Highly recommended.

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    [By Mark Manson] The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck (Paperback) by Mark Manson (Author) (Paperback): Manson Mark: Amazon.com: Books

    Lily and I are adults. We love who we are and who we have become in our nearly 25 years together. We are not ashamed of our life and how we choose to live it. Ok maybe Lily is a little, but why should we be, why hide it? I don’t like to be fake to people. Perhaps we simply need to spend time with only those whom we don’t have to wear a mask around.

    If you have “friends” who are not comfortable with your life choices, they don’t need to be in your story. Kill off some characters in your story! If the Walking Dead can do it, so can you! (DO NOT ACTUALLY KILL PEOPLE). Leave them behind and pursue your happiness.

    A friend of mine likes to, “Filter” people. It’s as if she is sifting for gold. You get a shit ton of rocks before you ever grasp that morsel of fortune. It makes sense. There are so many people in this world. Meet them! Go on all the dates! Try everything that interests you. Don’t just dream about it. Go fucking do it! You might make amazing friends, lovers, sex partners! Sure, you won’t click with everyone, so filter them out!

    I understand the need to hide this lifestyle from family, co-workers, PTO Karens. But let them open their closets. Everyone has something and if they don’t they really need to get out more often.

    I recently told my younger brother that we are swingers. At the time, Lily had a boyfriend and I was seeing someone separately as well. We were dabbling in the poly world a bit. It’s been a crazy fucking start to the year! So much has happened. We will have to save that for another time.

    When I decided to tell my brother, I felt I needed someone close to me to know. He had confided in me when he found out he was to be a father unexpectedly, before he told our parents. It felt good to bond with him that way. To let him into my world a little more. There was a sense that he would be ok with it. I am not bringing him to any parties, although I am sure as a single guy he would appreciate it, but it feels good to be accepted by family no matter how twisted or unusual they your choices may be.

    He said that he never expected to be jealous that his older married brother gets more pussy than he does. I found that to be both eye opening and kind of awesome.

    One of our on going agreements is to always keep our vanilla world separate from our LS world. For good reason of course. We have children. We don’t ever want them to be shunned or treated differently because of the choices we make in our personal lives.

    When it is only our sex life, then it really doesn’t make sense to open up about it to anyone. It is no one’s business what goes on behind closed doors. However, in the last few months, our experiences have shifted our views. Is it so wrong to be out to dinner with someone else? What if we get caught? What difference does it make? We aren’t cheating. We aren’t doing anything harmful. So long as we are ok with it, it really makes none at all.

    Going forward the intent is to share more about ourselves. We haven’t even touched the surface.

    Some “friends” may get filtered out in the process, but those who remain and rise to the top will be the ones worth keeping.

    So we now realize this blog was created for selfish reasons. Writing these words will help to discover those who are meaningful to us and we will surround ourselves with an abundance of love.

    Perhaps one day, some confused person or persons may stumble upon this and find clarity through empathy. To see that there are many ways to love and live. They might realize the kink they hid wasn’t so unusual and there are many people who are the same and are unapologetic about it. Why do they get to not give a fuck? I want to stop giving a fuck too!

    Now am I going to go out tomorrow and shout from the roof tops that we are swingers and my wife and I have sex with other people? No. We are just not there yet. We will share more and more here and slowly, perhaps we build the courage to tell others. Then we can stop caring, stop worrying, stop giving a fuck and just be us.

    Hope yall stick around! Likely going to be a wild ride.

    As always, if there is a topic you would like discussed or a question you have, please send it, we will try to respond or perhaps cover the question in an entry.

    Thanks for reading!

  • When You Don’t Clique

    When You Don’t Clique

    Even in a lifestyle that claims to be accepting of all, there will always those who end up feeling left out or unwelcome. I hear it constantly. Sometimes it can be brought on by ourselves from failing to let go of our fears and insecurities. Other times we find ourselves standing on the outside of a circle or clique that seems impenetrable and we don’t really know why.

    When a couple or even a single begin their journey in the LS, they may have high hopes and grand expectations of how things will go for them. Big plans to explore their sexuality, fulfill their deepest fantasies and cross off some of their naughty “fuck-it list.” In order to do this, first they must meet the right people!

    There might be a struggle initially not knowing where or how to go about finding like-minded people for adult fun.

    (If this is a problem for you check out our blog post on how to meet others, https://swingopen.wordpress.com/2019/09/23/swinger-sites-and-other-ways-to-meet-lifestyle-friends/ )

    Once you meet some like-minded people, there tends to be a bit of a snowball effect. Especially if you start going to parties or Meet n Greets. You’ll quickly find the community is much bigger than you imagined but at the same time quite small depending on where you live.

    There may be some groups that have been around for awhile and built quite the following. Every gathering will have fresh faces but there will always that core group of regulars. There always seems to be a bunch who all know each other and appear to have been friends since high school or somwthing. They cling to one and other at every event and even seem to spend the majority of their non-party time together.

    This can be extremely intimidating for newcomers. That’s one thing that makes Meet n Greets less appealing to us. It seems to just turn into a group of friends hanging out, it becomes less of a swingers meet up and more like your basic Saturday night bar hop with college buddies.

    Another thing a newbie may encounter is a lack of connection once the party atmosphere has ended. Say you go to a party, you might hit it off really well with a few couples. Even perhaps get a bit entangled with someone but when the party’s over, never hear from them to hang out on the weekend or go have brunch with a group.

    There seems to be different levels as well. There are the hottest, highly attractive who kind of stick together, the bottom rung who maybe aren’t as attractive but still lots of fun who also form their own clique. Then there are people who kind of fall in the middle.

    We could be wrong, but we feel like that is us. The middle class, floaters. We seem to mingle with people in all levels but never feel fully at home in any faction of the group. Sort of like the misfits on the island of misfit toys. We can be fun to hang with at the parties but never quite make it to the the inner circle. And that’s okay. We never really got into all this to make best friends. It seems a lot of people have done that. They have to feel connected all the time and part of a group.

    The thing is once these “groups” form then the drama begins. We try to make it a point to keep clear of drama at all costs. Although this year we have seen our share of it. When these cliques and groups come together, someone is always left out. There is often some kind of falling out within the group for whatever reason which causes unnecessary turmoil. Many events become a high school reunion rather than a fantasy experience.  Who needs that?

    But what can be done?

    Sometimes it just is what it is. People are naturally drawn together for all kinds of reasons.

    According to a Kidshealth.org article from July 2018 reviewed by Kathryn Hoffses, PhD;  https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/cliques.html?view=ptr&WT.ac=t-ptr

    “Cliques attract people for different reasons: For some people, being popular or cool is the most important thing, and cliques give them a place where they can get this social status. Other people want to be in cliques because they don’t like to feel left out.”

    The funny thing is, this article was written for Teens.

    We once had someone tell us that if we are having a good time meeting couples and going on dates then we should skip the parties and Meet n Greets.

    They said, “It’s like high school again!”

    That kind of stuck with us. It does seem that way at times. We aren’t in the largest city in the U.S. and you quickly find out just how small the community is. As mentioned we often see many of the same people at these events. Many are just there for the drinks. Sometimes we wonder if certain people even ever play or if they are literally just there for the atmosphere. Every couple has their own dynamic. Everyone has their standards and boundaries, so that could be a real possibility.

    So, what can you do? Best advice we can give is just be you! I know it sounds cliché but honestly, it is the only thing you can do. You can’t control who wants to be your friend but you can control how you feel about yourself. When you go to events, try to look your best! Always dress to impress. We notice that is definitely an issue for men. There are so many that don’t even seem to try. Maybe their wife or SO is very sexy. Therefore, she becomes the focal point of their attraction. Then they become sort of one dimensional as a couple. Men in general just need to simply step up their game when it comes to fashion. Some of them show up to these events looking like they just rolled out of bed or left the gym and came straight over. It’s great that your wife looks so amazing’ so first question that comes to mind is, “Do you play separate”?

    There is always an exception to everything of course. We have met some of the most down to earth, attractive people in the LS as well. People, who in high school probably wouldn’t have even looked at us but now make us feel like we are part of something amazing and even have mindblowing sexual experiences with.

    As a couple we try to talk to anyone and everyone. You really never know where it may lead. Maybe they aren’t a sexual match but could be amazing people and having more friends is never a bad thing. You don’t have to have sex with everyone you meet. 

    Ha, “We don’t have to have sex with everyone we meet.” I have to remind myself of that from time to time.

    So, next time you are at a party or event, just put yourself out there. Talk to people. Be in the moment. Don’t get stagnant and stuck with one group or another. Make a sincere effort to reach out to people you haven’t talked to before. If at a party or meet, perhaps make it a point to meet 3-5 new people even if you spend most of your night with a certain group or hiding in the corner. Trust me, they are just as nervous as you are. You came all this way to fulfill you’re fantasies. Take that next step. Say hello to someone and don’t forget to smile!

    We are in an amazing place these days. So much is happening in 2021.

    If you have something you want covered or if there are any questions you have, please send us an email! Thanks for reading!

      

  • Swinging and Politics Don’t Mix

    Wow, what a hell of a year it’s been!

    We know it’s been awhile. As we’ve said before, we are terrible at follow up.

    There really hasn’t been much to follow up on this year. Besides the global pandemic, there has not been any swinging to write about. Lily has been working from home now, along with me. It’s great to spend the days together. Lunch time workouts together, little check-ins throughout the day, and even better, sometimes having each other for lunch! If you know what I’m saying.😜


    This year has brought on so many stressors for everyone, or magnified ones that likely already existed. Friends of ours have gotten divorced. Some swingers have realized, without the events, meet ups, and parties, their life with their significant other doesn’t mesh as well as it should or is just not that exciting. It’s very unfortunate, but stressful events will definitely bring to light the most difficult issues in relationships.


    Also, there is a presidential election this year.

    We try to avoid drama at all cost when it comes to the lifestyle. We’ve seen posts turn in to ugly battles between people who we thought were friends. Whether its drama caused by a couple or an outside element like politics, it’s still drama and there is no room for it in the lifestyle.

    We simply steer clear of these conversations and we urge others to do the same. It’s just not worth it. No one is going to change anyone else’s mind arguing through Facebook or Twitter. To be honest, it’s just not that sexy.

    So many socially appropriate behaviors we were raised on, go out the window when it comes to politics. People didn’t use to talk so openly about their political beliefs. You kept your mouth shut and just voted. It didn’t matter so much what others thought.

    Maybe we are wrong. Maybe we were young and naive. However, there is definitely something to be said about the changes in communication over the years. The ability to connect with others through multiple platforms across the world with Twitter, Facebook, Reddit, or even on Swinger Sites, has allowed for instant communication. Unfortunately, it takes away the face to face aspect and people seem to lose their filter or they become brave enough to say the things they typically would not say in person.

    This happens with Swingers too. You might chat with a couple and have fun conversations in Kik or Facebook messenger. You probably begin to build up a persona in your mind about these people, even of you have yet to meet. Then you meet and they are completely different than expected.

    I know we’ve done this.

    We chatted back and forth with a couple for a bit. Exchanging flirtatious remarks and photos with each other. We were excited to meet them and had created in our minds how hot the meeting would be. When we actually met them in person, so much about them was different from what we had pictured.

    They were much more reserved and shy than expected. It was a surprise based on how open they were through our conversations. Their voices didn’t even match how we imagined they’d sound. It’s a funny thing to say, but it makes us feel somewhat bad for having perceived so much about people based on a few photos and emboldened conversations. But the mind seems to create an overall idea and expectation. It’s hard to avoid.

    Unfortunately, that’s the way it is everywhere these days. People blocking or being blocked for snarky comments and angry politically charged internet battles. It’s sad.

    We have a Facebook profile devoted to lifestyle events and the local community, so we can keep it separate from our vanilla world.

    We use to get on that profile and see a feed full of sexiness, exciting, titillating conversations. Now we see people bickering over Trump and Biden. Well shit, that looks like our vanilla feed now! That’s no fun at all. But that’s where this year has gone. Between the pandemic and it being an election year, the anger and nastiness has been amplified to a point where it is beginning to drown out the light moments we hope to share.

    We even heard of someone we know, who decided to take it upon themselves to out a couple to their vanilla community, just because they supported a different political party. That’s too far! There is simply no reason for it and no place for it in the lifestyle.

    We never discuss politics at any event, meet up, date or encounter. It should be a political free zone.

    Quite honestly, not bringing it up is the smartest thing for anyone. You risk alienating yourself, depending on what the majority of the community beliefs are. You’ll certainly be passed over by someone who may have been an extremely satisfying and intense sexual experience because you don’t have the same political ideals. You are limiting your own field and narrowing your options. So we say leave it out.

    Politics and the Lifestyle do not mix and quite frankly, some of you could use this idea of leaving it out of your vanilla world as well. Then again, toxic people don’t always change how they behave just because they are in one community or another. The drama and toxicity simply shifts to a new venue for them.

    Whatever happens this year, stay calm, have a glass of wine, maybe smoke a bowl and get naked as often as you can. We hope all of you are safe and well.

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    Until next time! Stay sexy and keep swingin!

  • Consent is Everything

    Consent is Everything

    Consent is everything in any potential sexual situation. Without proper consent people can feel violated, and the possibility of a great time can go south very quickly. There is a certain level of etiquette that goes along with the LS also. It is important to be very clear about what your intentions are.

    Recently we heard of a situation where a female who was naked at a party climbed on the lap of another’s husband and attempted to kiss him. Apparently this was an unwanted advance and it caused a bit of turmoil. His wife was upset and we feel it’s rightly so.

    You have to be sure you understand the dynamic of everyone’s relationship. LS rules are not one size fits all and this makes communication crucial. We were not there so the details we’ve heard were all one sided, but in this example if the naked woman spoke with the couple before deciding to mount the husband she may have found the interest level was not a match. Which would have saved her the embarrassment of being called out. You can never assume another is comfortable with your advances. This particular couple is new in the LS community. A situation like this really gives an awful preview of how things happen within the LS. It might even scare people away.

    Unfortunately this is a bit common. Women don’t seem to follow the same rules of consent as men do. Don’t get me wrong, I am sure there are men out there doing the same things and are overly aggressive. In fact, at a recent party we ran into a bit of aggression.

    Lily was dancing with a man who she found attractive, but things took an ugly turn because he didn’t check her level of interest and became a bit too rough.

    Lily doesn’t mind some rough play; however, he crossed the line. As they danced he was asking her rules, which was good, but then he went in for a kiss. At first it was fine until he decided to bite her lip. She didn’t like that at all. It wasn’t like a pleasant nibble. It was like he was trying to take a chomp out of a steak! She pulled away quickly and wanted off the dance floor. I had no idea this was happening until she pulled me away to tell me. For a week she had a bruised lip which upset her even more due to the fact that she had to make something up to tell family and co-workers. Not cool!

    In this situation, had he asked if she was into that she would have said no and maybe he would have gotten further with her, but his aggression completely turned her off. It didn’t matter if he was her type or not. That was it for him!

    Always…Always…Always ask. Ask to touch, ask to kiss, ask ask ask. You will find everyone will feel much more comfortable and trusting with you if you ask. Some will say no but that’s ok! Not everyone will be into you and you won’t be into everyone either.

    There are many levels to different couple’s rules and boundaries. Even something as simple as trying to message or friend request someone’s SO can cause upset. If we get into a conversation with someone we will always make it a group conversation. This makes it very clear that we are not trying to pull anyone aside or be sneaky in any way. We see it all the time where someone will make a comment that a person contacted their SO and made advances without their knowledge. This only causes distrust. It breaks trust with you and between the couple. You don’t know their dynamic. They could be in a Dom/Sub relationship for example. In this case the sub would need permission to even talk to someone else.

    You must respect any and all boundaries put in place. That is what makes consent so crucial. You don’t know unless you ask! Many people find it sexy, polite, and they welcome it. However awkward you may think it feels to ask for something as simple as a touch, the outcome of a non-consensual advance will be a thousand times more awkward!

    Thank you once again for joining us! Tell us your thoughts on consent. We have some exciting posts we’re working on. We will cover our recent break from the LS, as well as the exciting party we attended prior to it. Hoping to finish all that up soon. If you enjoy this content please like, follow, and share! If you ever have any comments or questions please reach out to us! We don’t bite. Unless you’re cool with that!

  • To Kiss or Not to Kiss

    To Kiss or Not to Kiss

    There have been many conversations amongst LS acquaintances of ours about kissing. Some feel it’s too intimate, like Julia Roberts in “Pretty Woman”. They will give all of themselves to someone else but the lips are only for the one who they love. Others crave the sexual tension kissing builds and the connection it gives them with another person. It makes them feel wanted, sexy, and allows them to feel the chemistry they need to take it to the next level.

    Some argue that if you can have sex with someone who is not your significant other then you sure as hell should have no issue having a steamy make-out session. After all it is a vital part of foreplay, isn’t it?

    According to Bitishcouncil.org;

    “The dopamine released during a kiss can stimulate the same area of the brain activated by heroin and cocaine. As a result, we experience feelings of euphoria and addictive behaviour. Oxytocin, otherwise known as the ‘love hormone’, fosters feelings of affection and attachment.”

    https://www.britishcouncil.org/voices-magazine/kiss-science-smooching

    Given this is what kissing can do to a person it makes perfect sense why some couples have reason to keep kissing to themselves. Though most we find in the LS have no ill intentions of taking your mate away and brush kissing off as a form of greeting among other like-minded people. Still it can give you pause with the realization of how strong it can effect you emotionally.

    So just how do some people even allow kissing to be on the table in an non-monogamous way without fear of destroying their own home?

    This is such an individualized thing. To have entered this lifestyle in the first place a couple must already have an extreme eternal trust. Lily and I have built a strong deep trust over the years. We tell each other everything. There should be no secrets between a lifestyle couple.  Or any couple for that matter. These experiences shared are not about one-upping or sneaking a quickie with someone else without your partner knowing. To us anyway, it’s all about experiencing it all together. There has to be a certain level of maturity and self awareness in order to make any of this work.

    We have encountered couples who don’t kiss on two occasions now. Surprisingly both were at LifeinStyleSTL Parties like the one we talk about in LifeinSTyle Hotel Takeover Part 1.

    It is paramount to discuss your rules and be sure about what you as a couple will allow before any play. This alleviates any misunderstandings. Others should understand and respect those boundaries as they expect you to respect theirs.

    Dinner before meet n greet. We drank the whole bottle.

    Personally, we love kissing! We love the affection and the closeness. Yes, it is intimate but so is oral. We don’t have rules against kissing at all other than making sure the other is in agreement with who we are kissing.

    At a recent meet n greet I was kissed by two different women at separate times throughout the evening. Lily became slightly upset with me. Especially with the second one. We had some pretty intense kissing right next to her at the bar and I think she felt left out. I didn’t think anything of it but it really bothered her. It may have been more that we drank a whole bottle of wine before going out and her tipsy emotions got the best of her. She was done with the night and ready to go. It was a bit frustrating since there were so many people there we had been wanting to meet for a long time. Instead we found ourselves calling an Uber at 10:30 and she went silent for the rest of the evening.

    In hindsight I should have checked in with her before enjoying the lips of another and that was my error and lesson learned. Even though we are a couple who enjoys kissing it clearly can spark a bit of an uncomfortable situation if not discussed and agreed upon before.

    Kissing is intimate, it’s exhilarating, exciting, and oh so sexy! It can however bring up feelings in some people that may be unexpected whether you are the one kissing, being kissed, or witness to your significant other kissing. You as a couple must be honest and have a serious conversation if kissing is something you will allow or if you will keep it for yourselves.

    Tell us what you think! Are you a kissing couple? Do you share your lips or are they sealed from the lifestyle? There is no one way in the LS.

    Thanks for coming back to read our thoughts and experiences. If you have any questions that come up please do not hesitate to contact us. If there is something you would like discussed let us know and we are happy to see how we may tackle it! If you enjoy the content please be sure to like, subscribe and share with others! Kisses! 😘

  • Swinger Sites and Other Ways to Meet Lifestyle Friends

    We have been in the lifestyle for quite some time.  Having met as teenagers we found early in our relationship that sharing was an intoxicating exciting adventure we wanted to be a part of.  Still together close to half a century later our passion for the swinger lifestyle has grown immensely.  We are constantly looking for exciting new ways to meet other couples and even singles.

    From apps to swinger sites even twitter we will share a few we like what has worked for us!

    Swinger Sites

    There are so many sites these days. All the websites seem to be regional. We have signed up for many but have only forked over the money for two at this point.

    1. Swinglifestyle.com (SLS)

    https://www.swinglifestyle.com/autopilot/swinger468.cfm?signup=gdalecouple

    This was the first swinger site we ever joined.  We have been members for about seven years and have met some fun, sexy people through this website.  

    When we lived in California we found this site to be full of people just like us.  We took advantage of a one time fee to be Lifetime members.

    Known to most as SLS, it is, from what we have heard, one of the original lifestyle sites. It is fairly easy to use. Creating a profile is simple and straight forward. You will only need your email address and to complete their profile section. Then add some pictures and you are on your way.

    The search section is very easy to use and allows you to narrow the filter down to what kind of person or couple you are looking for. You can also search only paid members if you prefer.

    Members seem to be pretty active on this site. We have met and successfully had quite a few sexy encounters through the site.

    There is a section to post calendar events or “hot dates”.  If you are going to be going out and looking for someone to join you simply post a “Hot Date” with the details of what you are looking for.  Also many local and non-local events are listed.

    The messenger is a bit clunky and isn’t great for long conversations but it works well enough to get the fun started.  We usually will flip to Kik messenger like most people if the conversation is heating up.

    You will need to pay for this sites best features.  With a free account you can get a good look at everything that is provided and you may even receive messages but will not be able to send any or even reply.

    All in all we like this site.  It has worked well for us on the West Coast and the Midwest.  Though lately it has not been our goto but we still check it every now and again since we are lifetime members.

    2. Couple Fore Play (C4P)

    https://www.clubforeplay.com/

    Club Fore Play or C4P is another site we learned about in 2018. Of course it allows for profile creation and the ability to add pictures as with any of them. I don’t believe there is an ability to instant message in any way.

    There are three separate picture album categories. You have your public photo album. This is where you should post pics that will catch the eye of potential playmates. Then they have a restricted section. Non-paying members can’t see these which is kind of a cool feature but a bit unnecessary. Last you have your private photo album. This album is where your naughty pictures and even face pictures should go. You get to decide who sees them. You can remove access at any time.

    The email is pretty simple and even gives you a bunch of fun little emojis. It also gives the option to send the email as, Us, Him, or Her. That is pretty nice as a lot of times I will vet people and don’t want to start off as we are both responding.

    I don’t think they offer a lifetime membership but we have used it pretty often and met some great friends. We simply signed up for a year or two.

    Like SLS it has a section where all the local and regional events are taking place. You can sign up easily directly through the site for parties and meet n greets.

    There are features to send a wink with a brief message. It’s a nice little ice breaker to let someone know you are interested. We have received winks from couples who we then reached out to with an email.

    One thing I don’t care for, and actually it is like this on both sites, is that when you check out a profile the member(s) know that you have been looking. It would be nice to anonymously browse. I understand why they do it this way is to promote interaction but sometimes you are enticed by a profile picture only to find out once opening the entire profile that they may not be a match for you. It would be nice to have that person(s) not know unless you want them to.

    I am really only covering sites we are paid members on because it is difficult to review any of these sites as only a free member as you really don’t have access to everything. However there are many other sites very similar like SDC.com, Kasadie.com, older ones like Adultfriendfinder or Fetlife. There are so many available and most are regional. Let us know which you prefer and what has worked for you!

    PHONE APPS

    Another avenue is phone apps. Although we have not used this method all that much we gave a couple a try.

    Tinder

    Tinder was created as a local dating app and allows you to swipe right or left to decide if you are interested in someone. A connection is made when you both swipe the same right. You are then able to send a message to get to know the person.

    Never really had much luck with this app. You can go through all the photos in a day and only make a handful of connections. Out of those connections many didn’t even respond to a message sent. I have heard this is a hookup app but we did not experience that from it and really got nothing out of it’s use. Most people are single and it doesn’t really lend itself to couples though we have heard some people have success.

    3fun

    3fun is an app that advertises itself for threesomes and swingers. The problem with it right off is there just aren’t enough members. It is very regional and not quite enough people have signed up in this area as of yet. If they get the numbers up it could be pretty great. It is nice to not have to explain that you are part of a couple like in tinder. https://www.go3fun.co/ad/TK10121

    Social Media

    If you don’t know, you have got to find out! Social media seems to be the way to go to truly make meeting local swingers easy! You can quickly find out so much about the community around you with a simple hashtag!

    Twitter

    This is where we started. Twitter is a hot spot for naughty fun. We never knew there was a dirty secret side to twitter until we started listening to some of the Lifestyle Podcasts and the hosts would say to follow them on Twitter. Checking out their page would connect us to other pages with similar interest. Eventually we started to notice there were tons of sexy fun people in Twitter land who lived right in our own community or very close to it! This is how we discovered the LifeinstyleSTL group who throws those amazing parties like we talk about in https://swingopen.wordpress.com/2018/09/26/lifeinstyle-hotel-takeover-part-1/

    Meeting that group bust the local scene wide open for us and it was all thanks to Twitter.

    Twitter is so easy to use and you likely have an account. We love it because we find the anonymity sexy and alluring. We began sharing the occasional sexy picture here and there and interacting with a few podcasters. It is all about the hashtag. I fought for years with myself to never say hashtag. It was always the number sign or pound key but! Well I gave in! A few key hashtags will link you to a very sexy and explicit world where swingers, freaks, and sex fiends collide.

    At first we were very selective about who we allowed to follow us and we kept our account locked. That all changed when we met a few other people who used their account not only to interact with other sexy swingers but also to promote, grow, and even make money!

    We still maintain our anonymity but we are in several groups who retweet and share our posts to help us gain a larger audience. This is great for cam models or those who are looking to sell something. We haven’t quite crossed that line just yet but who knows what the future may hold?

    Ever since Tumblr cracked down on adult content Twitter has been flooded with people of all sexual appetites! While we personally do not use it as an avenue to meet others in the Lifestyle anymore due to one follower who kind of ruined it for us, it totally can be used in that way. With the amount of users it’s reach never seems to end.

    Facebook

    For meeting others local and vetting them quickly there is really no comparison. Facebook has become our go to for finding out the latest events and local gatherings. There are so many groups and they are all hidden. We have a profile specifically set up for these groups so it does not overlap into our vanilla world. We don’t know for sure but assume these private groups are likely the norm in most communities. For us it seemed like once we got into one we began being invited to others. We are in groups for just our city, others for surrounding cities, and even ones for our whole state or adjacent states.

    In these groups people share funny memes, everyday chit chat , and naughty pics. The pictures aren’t quite as naughty as twitter due to the strict policies. Many members often get their account suspended for pushing the limits. They end up in “Facebook jail”. This has happened to us a handful of times. Sometimes we’d challenge the suspension because there was no full nudity. Some of these rulings were reversed in our favor. Others we would serve a 24 hour suspension. I think the most we ever had was a few days. Which isn’t bad since we know some people who have had several 30 day suspensions. Nonetheless you have to be careful what you share. While you can still choose to be mostly anonymous if you’d like it is easy to be yourself in most of these groups and it really is beneficial to do so. You find out how small the swinger community is very quickly and it is easy to meet other play partners because these groups are so localized.

    We love Facebook for the easy of use and the ability to make friends easily. One piece of advice if you are going to create a Lifestyle profile. Make sure to block your personal profile. Otherwise your Lifestyle profile will be recommended to friends and family.

    I know it has been a long time since I have posted anything. I am terrible at follow up and there was a time where we considered creating a podcast instead. If you are still with me I thank you for coming back!

    We have been through so much this year in the Lifestyle. Recently we have hit a wall. We are needing to step aside a bit and focus on our relationship a bit. That being said I have so much I want to tell you all so I will try to keep posting. I am going to try to figure a way to explain what has happened to cause us to want to take a break. Unfortunately sometimes you run in to things you didn’t expect going in and they cause you to have to take some time to process before you are able to go forward.

    Although we love our naughty escapades, our marriage and family always come first.

    Thanks again for reading. Tell me if any of these options worked for you in your pursuit of sexiness!

  • LifeinStyLe Hotel Takeover Part 2

    LifeinStyLe Hotel Takeover Part 2

    This is the long overdue ending to the LifeinSTyLe Spa Takeover we attended in the summer. If you have not read part one be sure to check out LifeinSTyle Hotel Takeover Part 1 to get caught up!  (more…)

  • We Suck at Meet n Greets

    We Suck at Meet n Greets

    Okay, so things are getting behind. Why the hell are we always getting sick!?  UUUGGGH…Oh yeah we are parents! lmao.

    That’s right we are two basic ordinary parents who have jobs, vanilla events, girls scouts, soccer, and all kinds of ordinary but also amazing parts of our lives.

    We are also happy to have a naughty, sexy, frisky side that we cherish. It’s important in our marriage to maintain this balance. The Lifestyle has always made us feel closer to each other. It’s a bond only we share. Sometimes it is difficult to maintain and we get wrapped up in our everyday lives, but we try our best.

    Now…I know…The next blog entry was suppose to cover the rest of Lifeinstyle’s sexy Spa Takeover we attended back in the summer but we’ve had a writer’s block set back to be honest. Trying to figure the best way to describe certain aspects of the event and give it the amazing colorful depiction it deserves. It is in the works and will be released soon! However, time is rushing by and we have released nothing.  The show must go on!

    We recently went to a Meet n Greet. We are learning these are not really for us. While we saw some familiar faces, we find it difficult to get into small talk. We suck at it. Plus it was at a bar where they were having a karaoke night. Surprisingly some of the singers had pretty great voices.

    We got there slightly later than the event start time. There weren’t too many people there and the only person I recognized immediately was the event coordinator.  We paid our entry and got a drink.

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    We hadn’t had dinner however. We planned to get it there which we realized quickly was a terrible idea! All these sexy people around and we were going to scarf down some greasy bar food? Yep, we are awesome like that!

    We held off a bit on the food and grabbed a beer for me, and Lily’s favorite Malibu and pineapple for her.

    This is first issue for us with meet n greets….

    We can’t drink much. We usually have a sitter at home and we don’t need to end up so intoxicated that we can’t make it back.

    The event coordinator came up to the bar next to us and we recognized him from Facebook pictures so I said hello!

    He was extremely friendly. He asked if we were new to the Lifestyle which everyone seems to think we are but we are not. We give off that vibe since we can often be shy in large groups. We do better in smaller intimate settings.

    We talked about other events coming up like the Good Vibrations NYE party.  We have yet to go to a Good Vibrations event, but do want to check one out eventually. From what we have heard, they often have a ballroom at a hotel then a whole floor for an after hours party where clothes are NOT allowed.

    We told him we were suppose to go to the LifeinStyle NYE party but that we would like to go to one of their events someday.  He introduced us to his wife and some friends. They were all so friendly.

    We decided at that point to order some food because we had to eat something. We split some appetizers and got another drink.

    As we awaited our order we scanned the room which was quickly filling. A couple next to us had said hello and we said hi back but it didn’t go beyond that. They seemed nice but there still has to be some attraction. This is where it gets awkward for us. We don’t want to be rude to anyone, but we either have an attraction or don’t, and the people who approach us first usually aren’t the ones we are attracted to. Which in turn makes us wonder if those we are attracted to just aren’t attracted to us and thus begins the introverted conflict inside us which freezes us to our spot and keeps us from going after who we are attracted to. It’s a vicious cycle!

    It’s tough because when at an event like this there is minimal time to make connections and if there is no attraction it’s difficult to spend time involved in conversation with someone where there is no intentions of taking it further. It feels shallow to think that way but let’s be honest, we are here to find people to get naked with and if we don’t feel it we don’t want to waste the time cultivating a relationship. I assume we aren’t the only couple who feel this way and I am sure there are couples who feel that way about us even. We don’t want to lead people on in a dragged out conversation while barely listening and scanning the room with our other eye for an out. This is just another reason why we are awful at this kind of thing. Hopefully someone can tell us we aren’t awful shallow assholes because while typing this, I kind of feel like we are!

    A few of our friends did show up however. We were standing near the door as it swung open and in stumbled a beautiful smiling Kate with her man Adam close behind! If you read LifeinSTyle Hotel Takeover Part 1 you will recall these two. If not, go read it. Part two is coming, I promise!

    We were heading over to grab a table to wait for our food. They had some sexy friends with them who they introduced us to but we don’t really recall their names.

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    We have got to get better about that!

    They joined us briefly when our food arrived and we even shared some with them.  There was a lot more than we anticipated. We made some small talk about the singers and that we were happy at least someone was there we knew. They left us to our meal and ran off to mingle.

    After we finished up we headed back to the bar to grab another drink and realized two things, one, everyone was talking to someone and there were many circles that had been created. The very few people we knew were involved in conversation. Adam always had his arm around a lady and not always the same one. Which was inspirational. The other thing we realized is that we can get involved in a conversation and push our way in but then where does that lead? This was a bar. We have long been over the bar scene. There is no where to play if it did lead somewhere. As a rule we don’t bring play dates to the house. Our dogs would bark and the kids would wake up. I try to push a little on this rule to be bent, but Lily so far has been stead-fast on keeping it in place.

    We walked around a bit more checking out the old dive bar. Stepped outside to see the two fire pits with more circles of people in conversation.

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    It was cold out as it tends to be during November in the Midwest so we headed back in.  Adam, Kate, and their entourage had left or stepped out at least, and we were getting a little bored.

    As we eluded to before, when we go out to do lifestyle related activities we don’t like to waste time. Sitter’s aren’t cheap and time slips by quickly.  We want to get as naughty as possible. Knowing that Lily enjoys being watched and as hot as she was looking that night we decided it was time to go find some naughty. Off to the strip club we went.

    She was dressed in a flowing floral skirt which came down on her shoulders leaving them bare and wanting to be kissed.  Her new black leather boots climbed her calves to her knees. She looked so sexy that night.

    We pulled into the familiar gavel filled lot and made our way to the door. This particular club has a special room in the back for couples. Anything goes in this lounge and we have had quite a few hot nights on the couches back there.

    We ordered a drink at the bar and headed to the couples lounge.

    As soon as we entered one of the people involved in those hot nights popped up from a near by couch to greet us.

    Miranda is an early twenties self proclaimed unicorn. Though I don’t think she can really call herself that because she has a boyfriend. She is perky with her blond hair and long legs. Her breasts are large and perky. She is a bit quirky and as we found out before, sometimes doesn’t shave her legs but always her pussy which is a little odd, but she is still sexy, fun, and totally bi!

    Even though she trimmed her hair we immediately knew who she was. Lily and her had taken turns eating each other’s pussy earlier in the summer and they had taken turns blowing me and her boyfriend.

    Lily was always a little bothered by that incident. She wanted mainly to play with Miranda when we first met. Miranda had being going on and on about being a unicorn but then suddenly her boyfriend was there. Though he was a nice enough guy, he was not really her type and she felt like she ended up in a position she didn’t really want to be in.

    This can be tough in the lifestyle.  That is why we have learned you have to set clear boundaries and if both of us are not into it then nothing is going to happen.

    This time however was different. Lily was feeling naughty but other than a bit of leg rubbing on each other, she wasn’t feeling it and just wanted her time with me. We went down to watch the strippers a bit. They are rather lazy at this particular club. They don’t interact much with patrons and are only mildly attractive.

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    It was getting late so we headed back to the lounge area.

    We sat on the black leather couch while other strangers around were sucking or fucking each other. Lily wanted to put on a little show. She straddled me on the couch and we started making out.  he was grinding against my cock through my jeans. I slid both hands around her waist and pulled up her skirt giving the guy sitting across from me a perfect view of her nice round ass. I reached up and pulled her dress top down in the front exposing her perfectly plump breasts and started running my tongue between them.

    We always get hot knowing others are watching. She knelt down and pulled my cock out and began sucking it like the little slut she can be. Greedily sucking and slobbering over it like her life depended on getting my cum out.

    A group of people came in and went right into a loud conversation. Her head continued to bob up and down ignoring them like a good girl as they sat at the other end of the couch.  I could feel the cum building and was almost there. I grabbed the back of her head thrusting my cock deep to the back of her throat causing her to gag. She stopped for a moment leaving me just on edge. She pulled back giggling that my cock went too deep. She went back to work but with all the commotion I had lost it. The conversation around us and the constant beeping coming through the thin wall from people entering and exiting the building made it difficult to focus.

    We composed ourselves and decided it was time to head home. Although we didn’t get any playtime with a couple, we enjoyed our sexy naughty time we had together. After the hour ride home and paying the sitter to send her on her way, we ravished each other.

    That night we decided we are going to stick to parties that have playrooms and meeting couples or select singles. We have much better odds in those situations.

    Part 2 of Lifeinstyles Spa Takeover is coming, I swear! I intend to be more consistent with this and try to give at least something every couple weeks.  If you like what you read please share and click the follow button so you won’t miss any steamy details.  

     

     

  • LifeinSTyle Hotel Takeover Part 1

    LifeinSTyle Hotel Takeover Part 1

    Holy shit! What a night! So many sexy people and not nearly enough time. We attended our first hotel takeover and it was out-fucking-standing!!

    We found out about this party on C4P.com. If you are not a member of C4P we definitely recommend you become one.

    We were actually supposed to go to a different hotel takeover that our friends from Do you drink and swing? offered to share their room but after talking to the hosts of LifeinStyle and others on twitter who have attended their parties in the past, we thought this was one we had to be at! It also would push us out of our comfort zone a bit which is a must for any couple exploring the LS.

    Unfortunately we made the decision to go a little too late so there were no available rooms left at the hotel and we had to settle for the motel 3 miles away. Next time we will be sure to get in on the rooms early!

    We can’t say enough good things about the hosts! We had been talking to Vinny and Sabine on twitter recently and they were so helpful in getting us all set up to be at the party. They promised it would be a great time and they did NOT disappoint.

    The festivities took place at a Spa Hotel and everyone was to come dressed for a pool party. Lily spent weeks going back and forth on what she would wear. She bought a sexy black one piece but as always began to question her choice so she bought some bikini bottoms also and a see through black cover up. I thought both were sexy.

    We were so excited the week leading up to it. Just seeing some of the hot couples who were going to be there on the attendance list had us charged up! It seemed as if the weekend would never arrive.

    We spoke to a few other attendees trying to spark up a possibility or just to get to know people we could talk to once we were there. As mentioned this would be a major step out of our comfort zone. It is always exciting to challenge ourselves to make new connections.

    The day finally arrive. Our kids were going to their grandma’s for the night. We told them we got a hotel near our house just for a night out to celebrate our 14 year anniversary. We had the car packed and headed out about an hour later than we wanted to. We didn’t want to get to the party first but we did want to get there somewhat early. Plus we still had to go to our hotel room to get ready before.

    We made it to the hotel at around 3:30 pm and got settled in. The room was acceptable but certainly no Hilton. There didn’t seem to be many people there and we began to wonder if we were the only ones at the motel and not the main spa hotel the party was to be at.

    We unpacked and threw on some music while we took showers and groomed to try to look our best for the party. I had the easy job only having to wear a swimsuit and a t-shirt while Lily settled on starting out in the black one piece. Wish I had remembered to take pictures!

    All cleaned up and trying to look our best we were ready to head over. There was a shuttle offered which was wonderful to help avoid drinking and driving. We decided to just drive ourselves over figuring not to get too drunk anyway. We didn’t want a repeat of what happened in Do you drink and swing?

    We arrived at the venue. Located in a small town in Southern Illinois the Spa Hotel was an older building that appeared to be prime for big events like weddings. Again it seemed dead in the little town though and we questioned if we were in the right place but seeing another couple, walking up with their “swinger bag” in tow and looking a little confused alike us, we knew it had to be the spot.

    We walked up the old stairs to a double door which took a few yanks to pry open. As we entered the main lobby it was clear we were definitely in the right spot. Standing at the table was a sexy black vixen. At first she was unable to find our name. I thought the guy standing next to her may have been Vinny but he said he was not. Let’s call them Adam and Kate. Adam is tall muscular guy with a beard. Lily has a thing for him I think. Kate is a gorgeous exotic looking woman with sultry eyes, a beautiful smile and a sexy body. After looking it over they realized we were on the “other” list. We weren’t sure what that meant and thought maybe we were in a special group but later found out it just meant we weren’t staying at the hotel.

    After getting checked in and getting our wristbands they told us where to go. Just down the hall around the corner opened into a large indoor pool courtyard area. There was a restaurant to one side and rooms overlooking the pool. On the far side of the pool they had a bar stand set up serving just about any cocktail you would need. The staff was so friendly and attentive. We immediately went to get a drink. They had specials on pinacoladas so we grab one of those. It was about 4:30 or 5 at this point. The drinks were very strong and went down pretty easy so we had to pace ourselves.

    At first we sipped our drinks glancing around at the couples. Little groups seemed to be forming. Many people already knew each other. Just then we recognized Vinny from his tattoos and he noticed us as well. He was just as friendly and outgoing in person as he had been on twitter. He let us know where we could put our bag and gave us a little run down of the evening but had to get back to host duties.

    We walked into the pool area with our drinks and noticed another couple we had been talking to on twitter. These two had highly recommended the Lifeinstyle parties. They listen to many of the same LS podcasts we do. We approached them to say hello and introduce ourselves. They were involved in a game of cards against humanities. They had a couple of friends from Florida with them. It was amazing how far people came for this party. They were friendly and cordial. We had wanted to meet them since we had talked a bit. Not necessarily as a couple to play with though we certainly wouldn’t turn down the invitation. We didn’t want to be intrusive but asked if we could join their group and sit down. In retrospect we wish we hadn’t done that because there was a slight awkward moment where it didn’t seem we were welcome. I think they only had a short amount of time with their out-of-town friends so they didn’t want to waste it. Which totally makes sense. Either way we felt a little out-of-place for a moment.

    We exchanged a bit of small talk and were relieved when more couples began to show up. There was a super sexy couple John and Liz. Liz was covered in glitter and rubbing it off on anyone and anything she touched. John was very friendly, outgoing, and as I called him later a bit of an instigator. In a good way though. They definitely knew how to party. Lily mentioned several times to me how she thought Liz was “fucking hot”. She definitely was.

    The conversation and drinks were flowing. We began to feel a little more at ease since Liz and John were so outgoing. Also by this point Kate and Adam had shown up and they apparently were close friends of theirs. We felt this was the group we had to get to know. Liz asked if anyone wanted to smoke some weed. I was totally down for that. We all went back to their room, Kate and Adam, Liz and John, and Lily and I.

    We smoked a bit and had more good conversation. As I said they already knew each other quite well. Next thing we knew Kate and Liz were walking around topless which we did not mind at all! They both had gorgeous breasts and sexy bodies. I forget how it happened but Kate gave a suck on Liz’s nipples and someone suggested Lily have a taste of the other. She was happy to oblige. Such a hot scene as Liz stood with a sexy lady licking on each nipple. John and Adam pointed out that Lily was the only one who still had her top on. Everyone wanted that to change. There was some teasing and negotiating to get her to show more. Lily loved the attention but always plays hard to get. Finally she gave in and flashed her beautiful breasts.

    After a bit more smoking we finally all headed back out to the party and to get more drinks. Lily and I discussed getting some dinner but we didn’t want to miss anything. As we sat by the pool we noticed some of the party goers had taken their tops off and there were breasts on display everywhere. It was amazing!

    We were told on the third floor there was a play room and also just down the hall was the a special room for a main event later, the “gang bang room”! We had already asked in the week leading up to the party if we could get entrance to watch. Lily was intrigued to see this live. I think she wants one herself if you ask me but just not ready for that level. We saw people going upstairs quite often and didn’t know if maybe people were already playing so we decided to adventure up ourselves and have a look at the playroom. Just before we headed up we made a stop at the restroom. As I waited in the hall for Lily I met this adorable little wide-eyed girl we have dubbed “The Pixie”. She has a gorgeous tattoo just below her breasts. Firm sexy ass and her energy is contagious. Turns out her and her boyfriend live near us. We met him later.

    When we got to the third floor the room was easy to find. There were party lights flashing and dance music playing. We went in the room and there was an older couple sitting on a pull out bed. There was a chair in the corner facing the bed. To the left as you entered the room was a wet bar that ran the length of the wall. Turn the corner to the left was a hall leading to another bedroom and a bathroom with a Jacuzzi tub.

    Adam and John had showed up in the room or perhaps they were already there. They are both very forward and would put their arms around Lily. I think they were trying to test her limits. The older woman on the bed was pretty drunk. We made small talk about the party but it quickly turned little frisky. Adam tried to tie Lily’s hands behind her back with a washcloth but it was too short. I stepped in behind to try to help hold her hands back. She didn’t fight it much and I could tell she was really enjoying the attention from us three. She laughed with giddiness. She could have been taken right there by three men and would have loved it. She has had two plenty of times but has not ventured past that though I know she wants to. While holding her back I was going to suggest grabbing the pillow case off one of the pillows as I heard that works well but at that moment the chair behind her moved causing her to fall back and releasing her.

    Lily went to the bed and picked the mask up asking what it was for. The lady on the bed told her to put it on and lay down so she could show her. Lily either naive or just wanting to play along did what she was told. The blond woman immediately spread Lily’s legs saying, “Come here you little bitch”!

    She then buried her face between them as she went down on Lily. Lily was a little mesmerized as she had her pussy eaten by a complete stranger. The older lady was clearly very drunk but I think Lily enjoyed the free pussy licking. After a few minutes with us all watching the excitement Lily was allowed to get up.

    We thought it was time to head back downstairs to finally get something to eat. We headed into the restaurant. The great thing about this party is everyone everywhere was part of the group. The only non-lifestyle people were the staff. Though even they may have been. We kept our meal light with sandwiches and water because we needed to sober up a little. It was still early after all.

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    The tables were all decorated with these cute pineapples! The atmosphere everywhere was welcoming. We had such a great time. The food was tasty too and just what we needed to get a bit of soberness back.

    Make sure to check back for part 2. We will talk about the sexy experience we had with the pixie and her man. Also we will cover the grand finale of the evening, Sabine’s gang bang! Don’t miss out on the details. This party was insane! Getting excited for their upcoming Halloween Party

  • Party Like it’s 1999

    Party Like it’s 1999

    Getting back to how it began I want to cover more about our friend, Chris.  I have talked about him in previous posts like Back in the Day .  He became our third for quite some time.

    Chris, still one of my best friends today, is a tall blonde hair blue eyed good ol’ country boy basically.  He has always been a great friend who has been there for me countless times.

    After the experience we shared with him, briefly highlighted in the post about Retribution , things didn’t change in our friendship.  I trusted him like a brother and this experience had only strengthened that bond. Most people would get jealous and I think at first I had a tinge of jealousy at moments but it was all washed away when I was able to reclaim Lily as my own.

    We were doing all sorts of experimenting back then.  We were heavy pot smokers, obviously loved Ecstacy and would do LSD pretty often.  Chris was part of our group and was almost always there.  He lived down the street from me too so we hung out nearly every day.

    I graduated from High School in 1999.  Our class motto, “Save the Best For Last”!  I was not a fan of school, always did just enough to not fail.  I believed I was destined for something bigger and better.  I couldn’t wait to get out into the real world.

    Another friend of ours we shall call Ryan, was putting together a New Year’s Party.  It was going to be at his house on December 31, 1999.  The party was dubbed “Rollinium” we would roll into the new year! He even had a banner made and hung it in the living room.

    We had a few dealers for E at that point.  They would even roll with us from time to time.  For this party our dealer was Jerod.  Jerod, did stay and take pills with us.

    All our closest friends were there.  We took the pills as the evening began. They always take a bit of time to kick in.  Anywhere from 30 Minutes to an hour.  Once they do there is a rush of warmth that rolls through you.  Once that happened the people in the house split up.  There were some who liked to just sit and ride it out and others would be all over.  We liked being by the music to feel the bass buzz through our bodies.

    Ryan had a narrow steep carpeted stairway that led to the basement.  At the bottom of the steps there was his bedroom to the right and another room to the left.  Lily and I went to the left to be by the stereo.  I think there may have been a black light as well but I don’t recall exactly.  Jerod was in there and possibly someone else but the lights were low.  Lily sat on the floor in front of me and removed her shirt releasing her sexy black laced bra. It was common for the girls to walk around in their bras because the ecstasy makes you warm.

    I sat behind Lily gently massaging her shoulders trying to help her roll begin.  She was facing Jerod and we were all talking about something we thought was important at the time. Lily began to slur her words and become more relaxed leaning back against me. It appeared the pills were good! As I rubbed Lily’s back I slid my hands up and down her shoulders in gentle strokes.  I began to massage the sides of her breast.  We were clearly all feeling it at that point as my hand slid back and popped her bra clasp.  She let the bra fall to her lap as her beautiful perky breast were on full display for us.  We carried on conversation as if nothing had happened.

    I think Jerod became a little uncomfortable.  He had known Lily a bit longer that I had because they went to school together.  He decided to leave us to each other.  We had no intentions of including him in anything and he really didn’t know we were into sharing I don’t think. We just made him a bit nervous or who knows what?

    By this time the pills were really working.  Lily was so horny and ready to go. Chris had joined us for a few naughty experience before that night and had become somewhat of a normal third.

    I let Chris know he was welcome to join us in the basement bedroom.  I also asked Ryan and he was a little interested but was the host so didn’t want to leave the room. Lily had a blow job experience with Ryan the last time we had rolled where we both came on her tits.  She was embarrassed after it happened because we hadn’t really done anything like that before. By this time though she was well over those insecurities. After-all we were just having fun.

    I don’t know how long I had been upstairs but when I returned to the basement bedroom the scene I walked into was amazing.  Lily was on the bed laying down with her legs spread wide.  Chris had his face buried in her pussy licking and sucking.

    She noticed me enter the room and said, “I hope this is okay.  You were taking awhile and I’m so horny”

    Of course it was okay! It is exactly what I had hoped to see.  I walked over to her pulled out my cock, grabbed the back of her head and stuffed her mouth.  Her moans from Chris sent vibrations that stimulated me even more.  Chris stood up to fuck her but instead Lily jumped up and ran to the bathroom.  She became nauseous, as is an occasional side effect of the pills.  Unfortunately this killed the momentum for us and we were not able to continue.  Besides Lily had to get home.  We drove her back to her house and Chris came along for the ride.

    The fun would have to wait until next time.

    When this post is published we will be days away from our first hotel takeover! We are so excited and nervous.  Definitely out of our comfort zone.  Lily is stressing out a little on what to wear.  The party is at a spa and the attire is swimwear.  She mainly has “mom” swimwear these days so she has had to grab some last minute accessories. Just hope they make it here in time.  

    We will pick up with more adventures with Chris in the future.  There were many, even my first Bi experience.  I would not identify as a Bi-male.  It is not something I look for but in the heat of the moment things sometimes happen and sexual adrenaline is hot!

    Thank you for reading.  If you have comments or questions please let me know.  Please follow and share as well! Till next time!